Until I was 9 years old, I was the
only kid in a great and loving family with 2 parents, 4 grandparents and 6
aunts and uncles with no cousins! Can you guess I was spoiled? But then, on the
18th of March, 2003 my life of endless pleasures had come to an end…
My parents brought home a little human being… my sister. Well, it was terrible!!!
Absolutely everyone adored her,
gave her compliments, bought her new awesome toys and clothes, and talked about
her all the time. What was so fascinating? – she was lying down and screaming
all the time, waking up and falling asleep whenever she wanted - and that is
it. And I was 9, all of a sudden left completely unnoticed, having to do
everything on my own and sleep to the sounds of her screaming. I still clearly remember
the next two years after Anastasia was born as the worst time in my life.
However, I am 20 now and I couldn’t
love anyone more than I love her! She is the person I miss the most, she is the
person I think about the most and she is my pride, joy and daily inspiration! I
am extremely happy with the way it’s turned out, but now, learning social
psychology, I am thinking about what could have been the reason for it.
According to Festinger’s (1957)
theory of cognitive dissonance, we tend to behave in ways that do not contradict
with our attitudes. And whether forcefully or voluntarily we do something that
is not consistent with our views, we always feel very uncomfortable (Festinger,
1957). But to protect ourselves from suffering, we start to enjoy and love what
we have suffered for. So, even though having a little human being at my house
was very annoying, I have gone through so much already, that the solution to
all my problems was learning to love her. And to this day I think it might have
been the best decision I’ve ever made!
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Hm… I kind
of love you a lot because I used to hate you a lot. But… still miss you a LOTtle! <3
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Festinger,
L. (1957). A theory of cognitive
dissonance. Stanford, CA: Stanford University Press.
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